Share Your Leading Within Blog

Disturbing Conversation With a Nine (9) Year Old Little Girl About Race 

The Fight…Brown .vs. Light Skin Little Girls!

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A week before school let out in Waldorf, Maryland for the Thanksgiving Holiday, three elementary school girls, all age nine got into an altercation about race. They were all African Americans, one light skin, and the other two were brown skin.

Not sure what caused the altercation in which one of the brown skin girls approach the other two classmates and called them “Negroes”, and yelled “y’all racist”!  Well, the light skin girl did not like to be called “Negro” or “Racist” and immediately responded with “I will kick your (A…)”, she further went on to say, “I’m not a Negro, my mother is light skinned and my father is mixed (Black and White).”

Shortly after those words were exchanged, the girls got into a fight.  The girl who called them “Negroes” pushed the other brown skin girl and she responded by punching her in the face.  They all got in trouble and had to go to the office.

Not sure what the teacher did to resolve this situation, but believe me I’m going to make it my mission to find out.

This story disturbed me deeply; I couldn’t help but to think, “what are these babies being told or taught at home about their race, history and culture, most importantly what are they not being taught?

As the little girl continued to explain what happened, I quickly realized that she might not have known what “negro” or “racist” meant.  So, I asked her…”do you know what “racist” or “negro” means and surely her response was “No””.  Yes, this was the other little brown girl who punched the girl in the face.

Needless to say, I took the opportunity to educate her about both meaning.  I shared that in the future, it you get in an altercation about race with another African American person, and they don’t know their history, culture or race, try to explain it to them, or have your teacher explain it to them.

Have African Americans become so divided that we don’t take the time to teach our children about the 200-year topic “complexion?”  I was reading an article from the actor Bill Duke who discussed “Dark Girls and Complexion Conflicts” on November 14, 2014, (click) …200-year-old debate on how Eurocentricity impacts American social constructions of race and beauty in African American culture, as it relates to public and self perceptions… Please read and share with your family and friends.

I know, sorry we have to re-visit this topic again, but African American’s parents please talk with our children, especially our young babies about the topic of “complexion”.

“If they don’t know what race/color they are, how do we expect for them to teach others?”


1 Response to Share Your Leading Within Blog

  1. Luckey says:

    At a young age we are exposed, taught, and formed into what social acceptance is. Our family can teach us the opposite at home but when we go out into the world or in this case school all or most of that is gone. This comes at no surprise to me though. As sad as it is we as youth pick up on ideas and beliefs when it comes to race rather quickly. I guarantee it’s not social media that showed these kids this way of thinking; but by physical example and everyday language.

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